Hello everyone, its been a heck of a long time since I updated my blog. So here I am again, ranting about things that I just don't agree with or things that don't sit right with me.
Let's start!
Long distance relationships. I had my fair share of experience with long distance relationships since I've been in a few and my last relationship was one. Some lasted for a while, while others just totally flunked. Its fairly common these days to see posts or images about how distance doesn't matter if one trusts each other and what not in a relationship, well, let me be very honest with you.
DISTANCE DOES MATTER!
Be it small or big, there is an undeniable difference between couples who are together and couples who are not.
I am not saying that long distance relationships don't work, they do, and I've seen it. But it is definitely NOT for everyone.
As humans, we like to be special, we like to think that if someone else can work their long distance relationship, then of course, we can too! Its so common to think that way that most people actually fall into this "trap" of false-believing. I am not here to deny the power of optimism, but studies have also shown that being overly optimistic is not healthy either. My point here is, sometimes, it is just better to realise and acknowledge that not everyone can handle a long distance relationship.
You can have your trust, communication, faith and all those elements altogether, but it still might not work out. Simply because there is no stronger hormone than oxytocin, or otherwise known as the cuddle hormone. Just the mere touch of someone you love can increase your well-being. So imagine seeing others holding hands and what not, your body is only going to crave it more.
Of course, there are people that says: when you see each other, it makes it all worth it. And I don't disagree! I was head over heels happy when I finally get to be with my ex-boyfriend after spending almost a year apart. But there's also something called the emotional bank account. If the negative overrides the positive, its practically all for nothing. All your little bickers and arguments over the phone may be too overwhelmed to override that one big positive moment.
So I just want to say that, the next time you see a post about long distance relationship and how it works with trust and what not. PLEASE be considerate. You dunno who you're trapping. You might be saving someone from a big heartache.
I know long distance relationships work, but its time to wake up people.
Not everyone can work a long distance relationship.